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E quando de repente se tem 14 anos, é pro-choice e é julgada por adultos que lhe chamam "whore"?
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14-Year-Old Girl With Pro-Choice Sign Under Attack: "Please Stop Calling Me a "Whore"

My dad came to my defense online, but for the first time I am outing myself publicly. I'm 14. Please stop calling me a whore.

"I'm a 14-year-old girl who has lived in Austin, Texas, my whole life. I like art, music and talking on the phone with my friends. When I grow up, I'd like to become a science teacher.

I also believe in the right to choose and the separation of church and state. Or to put it another way -- to put it the way I wrote it when I was protesting at the Capitol last week:

"Jesus isn't a dick so keep him out of my vagina."

Yes, that's my sign.

I came up with it last week when my friend and I were trying to think of ideas for what would get people's attention to protest the scary restrictions that are happening in my state trying to take away a woman's right to safe and accessible abortions.

It worked.

When my friend and I took turns holding the sign, one of the pictures of her went viral.

Then my dad went online to defend the sign on Twitter and other online forums.

That's when people started calling me a "whore."

I'm going to be honest about what it feels like to be called that as a 14-year-old girl who has never had sex and who doesn't plan to have sex anytime soon.

I feel disappointed.

It's hard for me to understand why adults would be calling me this. It's hard for me to understand why anyone would use this term for a 14-year-old girl.

It's not anyone's business, but as I said, I am a virgin, and I don't plan to have sex until I am an adult.

But none of those facts make me feel any less passionate about fighting for a woman's right to choose and the separation of church and state in my home state of Texas.

I also don't think this makes me -- or any other 14-year-old girl who agrees with me -- a whore.

It simply makes us people. People who believe that abortion should be safe, legal and accessible for women. People who believe women should be in control of their bodies and should not ever have to put their lives at risk so that we don't go backwards in women's rights in this country.

I know someone who has had a few abortions. She now says that abortion is bad and she fights against a woman's right to choose.

This makes it all the more important for me to protest, even if I am only 14. In fact, my dad woke me up so that I could watch the Wendy Davis filibuster the night that she tried to prevent this legislation from passing the first time. I remember thinking that I was proud to be from Texas watching her stand up for what is right.

That was when I told my parents that I wanted to join in the protests. I have seen anti-abortion protesters at a clinic near our house, and it makes me upset to see women who are facing this hard decision being told that Jesus condemns them.

I guess I don't think it seems very Christian to me.

Then again, neither does calling a 14-year-old girl a whore.

The first day that we were out protesting at the Capitol, my friend and I took turns holding up the sign I wrote, and an older man came up to us yelling right in our faces. "You two should shave your heads! You should become lesbians! No man will ever want you! You're ugly!"

The police had to ask him to stop yelling at us. It was scary. But more than scaring me, what it did was make me feel even more determined to stand up and protest even louder.

I'm not going to let someone calling me a whore stop me from fighting for what is right for all women. I'm not going to let the bullies win in the fight over women's bodies.

I read some of the comments online that people said about me, and I was so proud of my dad for sticking up for me and for the sign I wrote. After a certain point, I really couldn't believe some of the comments people were writing. One person said that my parents should be arrested for child abuse and in another unbelievable comment, someone suggested that my dad must invite all my friends over to "play abortion clinic."

I'm done feeling disappointed by these attacks. That is why I'm speaking out -- even if I am only 14 years old.

But the way things are playing out everything feels reversed. Adults are not acting like adults.

Normally, I prefer to look up to adults as role models. But what is happening in Texas right now it's hard to find adults who I want to look up to.

I don't look up to an adult who is taking away a woman's right to choose.

I don't look up to an adult who is calling a 14-year-old girl a whore.

I don't look up to an adult who is screaming in my face and saying I am ugly.

And I certainly don't look up to anyone who says they are Christian but treats women the way I've been treated these past few days as a teenage girl."

Thought Catalog

Foi no Thought Catalog que descobri este texto e alguns mais.

Vejam, pesquisem, desfrutem.

11 Lies That Society Tells Girls

JUN. 16, 2013 

By BRIANNA WIEST

1. Being beautiful is most important. Unfortunately in our society there is a very heavy emphasis on physical appearance, however, it is not what you should be focusing on the most. If genuine, unconditional love, success, meaningful relationships and a purposeful life is what you’re after, realize that none of it will come from nice physical attributes.

2. There is only one way to be beautiful. Just understand that everybody has different tastes and opinions as to what is beautiful, and it just so happens that the people who control mass media, advertising and fashion editorials have one opinion, and that is not to say that it is the only opinion nor is it the correct opinion.

3. Marriage is happiness, singledom is not. It’s as though we have been conditioned to believe our lives will not be complete or happy if we don’t have a romantic relationship. Of course it’s wonderful when it works out, but there are plenty of other things that are wonderful as well. Being in a relationship and being married does NOT necessarily mean you are in love or that you are happy, just as being single does not mean you are miserable and unwanted.

4. Skinny is healthy. People will often disguise a plight to influence weight loss behind “I just want you to be healthy and do what’s best for you.” Skinny does not always mean healthy. You can have a whole slew of health problems from being too thin as you can from being too heavy. What’s more is that stressing out over not being the right size is even more detrimental to your health than simply being a little out of shape is. Keep your health separate from the idea that it will necessarily translate thinness and focus on habits that will actually make you healthier, not skinnier.

5. There isn’t anything to celebrate other than marriages, babies, Christenings, bridal showers, etc. and there is only one correct way to celebrate them. Theme: heterosexual marriage and reproduction. Even if you do choose to marry someone, you don’t have to necessarily have an over-the-top wedding, you don’t have to invite all of the people in your extended family who you barely know just because they are “related” and you do not have to feel bad about wanting a very small gathering to exchange vow to be loyal and loving with the people who really do matter in your lives. On the other hand, you do not have to apologize for spending an exorbitant amount of money on a huge celebration if that’s what you’d like. Bottom line: decide what works for you, do not apologize, and do not let other people make celebrations a stressful time for you because of the expectations you are not “living up to.”

6. You are lesser if you do not choose to be with a man. I sometimes like to call my significant others my “partner” even if it is a man, because I like to confuse people with the gender binary. He is my partner, isn’t he? And I guess I’m on a one-woman crusade to normalize terminology that does not define your relationships by the genders involved. You have a husband if you are heterosexual, you have a partner if you are homosexual. While some women wouldn’t want to be called “husband,” (and that’s perfectly fine) there is, unfortunately, a sense of superiority in having the former as opposed to the latter. Don’t let these age-old prejudices get you down. Either which way you roll the dice, if you are loved and you are loving, you are doing just fine.

7. You can’t handle a life on your own. Men are for fixing the pipes and paying the bills, right? Don’t let yourself be scared into a life you don’t want because you think you can’t function on your own. This is more than just in marriage, though. Some people don’t even want to be single and not in a relationship, they need to feel wanted and worthy because someone else wants them and sees them as worthy. Letting somebody else give you your sense of worth is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. Trust me.

8. You are wronging your children by raising them outside of a nuclear family structure. Some people believe this very adamantly, and I respect their beliefs: it’s the system that has been in place for all of time, and of course it’s scary to accept a different way of life. But you know what? I’m of the belief that what really matters is how much you love your family, no matter who they are or what genitalia they happen to have. Clearly, nuclear family structures are not foolproof or flawless, so don’t be so quick to judge two happy and madly-in-love women who want to raise children together.

9. A career is something you pursue when you don’t have love.This actually can be the case for some people, but for others, remember that the concept of a “career” doesn’t necessarily mean a job that you hate that you’re just in for the money. If you really find your passion that fills you up like any other kind of love would, it’s more than just a job, and we call it a career, but really, it’s self-fulfilling and not reliant on anybody else. It’s something very much worth pursuing for those reasons alone.

10. Your body is made for the eyes and satisfaction of others. This means you shouldn’t have hair in places other than where men can look but not have to touch (eyelashes, eyebrows, hair) but even that has to be groomed properly. You should not have natural bodily smells or fluctuating weight because that won’t please someone else. It’s really just plain silly when you think about it. The only purpose your body has is to provide you with a vessel through which you can experience your life. If someone else chooses to love it too, that’s fantastic. But never, ever should you make decisions about it because of someone else’s opinion.

11. You are only a woman if you are biologically born that way.This is a more universal teaching, and it’s that sex and gender isn’t a choice, when really, it is. You can choose just how masculine or feminine you would like to be, and you can act on the ways you most identify with the ways in which men and women typically behave– or not! It is your life and your body, and there is no reason to label yourself in only one of two categories for other’s simple minds that can’t understand. 

The Centaur

The letter dates from Aug. 25th1926 and was signed by Mrs. Smith of Smith and Co., a bakery in Leicester, UK.

The letter reads:

Dear Sir,

Going down Nedham St, yesterday, I noticed a poster advertising your noted Sandeman Port Wine. To say the least of it I was thoroughly disgusted with the picture. The ‘supposed’ man’s expression is absolutely diabolical and lustful. The woman’s pitiful and pleading. Is the woman to climb up the devils back (excuse the expression) for a glass of wine? As a business woman & one who likes a glass of Sandemans in reason I very much object to it, especially as my friends – both male & female – are commenting on the advert and not to its credit.

Faithfully yours,

L.K. Smith


On receipt of the above letter, Mr. Hugh Ponsonby (the Export Manager in Sandeman’s London Office) felt inspired and wrote the following limerick:

It seems there’s a lady in Leicester
Who wouldn’t say no if you pressed her
But the trollop who rides
On the wild horse’s sides
Has put her off Port and depressed her


On May 1926, the “Poster and Outdoor Advertising Magazine” wrote:

It is a very characteristic example of d’Ylen fantastic art, and will no doubt win the hearty disapproval of the conservative school in the advertising world.

Glycerine

Marés Vivas

Meidin

Foi num jantar com um amigo e depois num aniversário que conheci o Meidin.
Situado na Boavista, é um restaurante acolhedor, onde a comida é óptima e a um preço muito bom.

No primeiro jantar optei por uma lasanha de carne, que estava óptima, no entanto, já comi lasanhas melhores.
Depois na sobremesa comi after-eight: uma bola de gelado de menta com chocolate quente por cima que estava de comer e chorar por mais.

E o pão de alho com queijo? Magnifico!!!

Da segunda vez, optei por um crepe salgado. Achei este prato melhor que a lasanha e muito bem servido. Optei pelo crepe com camarão e queijo.


Desta vez não houve sobremesa.

Desconhecia, mas um restaurante a recomendar.

"Anna Karenina", Leo Tolstoy

"Love (...) The reason I dislike that word is that it means too much for me, far more than you can understand."

XConfessions

Erika Lust é uma das minhas cineastas (de filmes pornográficos) preferida. Gosto da forma como aborda os temas, como os trata, como utiliza as imagens sem ser demasiado agressivo para o público feminino e indo também de encontro ao público masculino.

Erika Lust lançou recentemente XConfessions, um site onde, depois de se registarem os utilizadores podem "confessar" as suas histórias, comentar outras histórias publicadas, e ver as curtas-metragens feitas por Erika Lust inspiradas nos contos.

O registo é gratuito e qualquer um pode fazê-lo.

Visitem.

TED Talks: Helen Fisher: The brain in love

"The French Lieutenant's Woman", John Fowles

"...Though one may keep the wolves from one's door, thwy still howl out there in the darkness."

Metáforas

Não é que aquela "senhora" (falta melhor termo) na A.R. comparou manifestantes a "carrascos", citando Simone de Beauvoir.
Pois bem, minha cara senhora, vá ler Simone de Beauvoir, veja bem que ela fala de Nazis, e depois compare manifestantes a Nazis.

Work, work, work...

Trabalho, trabalho, trabalho...


Rouba tempo a vir aqui escrever. Estão textos por acabar nos rascunhos. Damn it!

O amor #1

"Depois de andar a ler o que tu lês, agora percebo a razão pela qual tens essa atitude perante o amor..."

Yup, sou um bocadinho fria e detesto declarações loucas de amor.

"Manhattan Transfer", John dos Passos

"I guess I don't love anybody for long unless they're dead..."

Dentista.... again....

Desta vez foi tirar pontos.

Ainda não está completamente fechado. Tenha cuidado.
Daqui a uma semana já pode comer para esse lado.


Vou pagar as propinas à filha da minha dentista.